Relationship Counseling – How to Get Your Partner to Agree to Counseling

Early on in a marriage or relationship, whenever something comes up that causes friction between partners, it is often overlooked and even ignored. But, as the relationship continues, those little things begin to add up. When your relationship is experiencing problems, the last thing many couples consider in order to save their relationship is to seek counseling. Many times, it is only when the marriage or relationship is nearly shipwrecked that counseling is sought. Knowing this ahead of time, you may wonder how to get your partner to agree to relationship counseling. In this article you will find helpful ideas to accomplish that and, in the process, save your marriage or relationship.

Amazing as it sounds, it is the younger couples who are often more willing to seek counseling than the older set. This is most likely because, as a society, we once frowned upon airing our “dirty laundry” to a complete stranger who claimed to be a relationship counselor. As a result, many long term marriages ended in divorce due to the stigma attached. Regardless, today many taboos have been removed and people are more willing to seek counseling than in the past.

In order to receive the best chance of saving your relationship, it is imperative that both partners attend. One way of convincing your mate to go with you is to make sure you don’t make them the guilty one. For example, approach this to make it sound as though you are the one that needs the counseling and you need them to give you moral support. By approaching your partner in this manner, you are more likely to get them to go along.

Tell them that you want to save the relationship and are willing to go to counseling in order for you to be a better partner and learn how to handle the relationship in a better way. Even if you believe that your mate is the problem, it will do no good to tell them this; you need to make the reasons why the relationship is struggling your problem. Once you have gained their trust and they are willing to go along, the sessions will end up helping both of you; you can then better see your faults and learn how to correct them together in order to save the relationship.

No matter how long you two have been together, if the problems are beginning to tear down the love you have for each other, the ability to get your partner to agree to relationship counseling will go a long way in resolving those issues. The real key here is to ‘nip it in the bud’ by dealing with issues while they are mole hills and not mountains!

One thing to be aware of here is the chance that your partner may think that, because you want to seek counseling, you must also think the relationship is doomed. You will need to lovingly explain that you believe that not to be the case and you only want counseling to ensure that doesn’t happen. Let them know how important it is to you to save the relationship and that through counseling, you believe you have the best chance of saving the relationship.

Even if your partner doesn’t initially agree to go with you, you need to go anyway. Not only will you gain some insights about things you could be doing to make the relationship better, but they will see that you are serious and then be more willing to give it a try, especially if they begin to see positive changes in you.