Relationship Counseling – Get Your Partner to Agree to Relationship Counseling

Generally, couples go to relationship counseling when they have exhausted all their means of solving the conflict among themselves.  On the other hand some couples believe that getting professional help early on might also present early solutions while the problem has not yet gotten out of hand.  I believe this should be the road that couples should take at the first sign of conflict.  Timely counseling can avert a bitter divorce from happening.

These days, couples are more open to the idea of counseling.  Years back, they are more traditional and would rather make use of the old fashion ways of resolving relationship problems.  There were a lot of marriages lasting 30 or 40 years already that have ended in divorce.  Who knows, counseling might have helped them restore their relationship and might have kept their marriage intact. 

If you believe that your relationship can be helped by counseling, your partner should be convinced as well that this could work out.  You should not broach the idea of counseling to your partner while hinting that he/she is the problem that is why counseling is necessary for surely they will view the suggestion in a negative light.  If you have to, then you can tell your partner that, more than anything else, it is for you. 

If you are able to convince your partner that you need to sort out some issues and that you hope to become a better, more understanding partner after the session then they might agree to that.  Even if you believe that the root of the problem is your partner, you should not explicitly say so.  During the course of the counseling if both of you are interested to fix whatever problem is brewing in the relationship, then you will be both willing to try out the counselor’s advice.

It is never too early or too late to seek relationship counseling and you should not be fearful of suggesting it to your spouse.  Some couples stay in denial about the real status of their marriage or relationship and keep saying everything is fine.  But the truth is they are already on the brink of separation.  Others are either too proud or too shy to go to counseling because other people will know that they relationship is not going well.  The truth is, if we face up to the reality now, there might still be time to save the relationship before the differences become truly irreconcilable.

Your partner might question your suggestion for counseling if you are thinking that there is no more hope for it to be healed.  You can calmly but firmly tell him/her that going to counseling is a sign that they want to change things for the better and make both parties understand that they have to make adjustments to make their partners happy.

If still your partner rejects the idea, then you have to do it on your own.  Ideally it would have better results if both partners are present, but if not, you can still apply what you learned from the relationship counseling for your own improvement which can redound to the improvement of the relationship.  If your partner learns that you are persevering in this area, in all probability, he/she will also go and see what this is all about.