Do You Need Professional Help? How to Get Your Partner to Agree to Relationship Counseling

Counseling is one of those things nobody wants to go to, because it is admitting that you have a problem you can’t solve on your own. This is unfortunate, because most people wait until they are on the edge of divorce before they even consider counseling. When if they first went when the problem was small, they might have prevented a lot of grief. Also by catching a problem early, you would hopefully never get even close to divorce becoming an issue.

Choosing counseling seems to be much easier for the younger generation. They have so much more information to go on, and are willing to step into something new. If you are older, then you were brought up under different rules. The older generation was basically taught to keep all their problems private and work it out themselves.

But this will just make things worse if they can’t work it out. The problem will just grow, and instead of getting some advice that could have saved them, they end the marriage after years of being with each other. There is nothing worse than love lost that could have been saved.

You Have Made Up Your Mind Now How To Make The Approach

Once you have decided that your relationship could use counseling, you will have to approach your partner with the idea. Here is where you need to be cautious. You don’t want them to feel that you are asking them to do this because you blame them for what is wrong. The best approach is to blame yourself for the problems, and tell them you want to seek help to improve yourself.

If they feel they are doing it for you, they will probably be more receptive to the idea. Now maybe the problem isn’t with you at all, and the fact is they are the one who really needs the help. The last thing you want to do is tell them that.

This will cause them to put up a wall of resistance to the idea, and you will never get them to go. By telling them that you are the problem will bring down their defenses. I know this is kind of manipulating them, and you might feel a little guilty, but remember, this is to save your relationship. Once you get them into counseling, they will begin to see all the problems and realize how much of the fault belongs to them.

It’s Never Too Late Or To Early

Never think counseling is a last chance effort to save a relationship. It is never to early to think about attending counseling. I don’t care how long you have been together. A new relationship or a marriage of thirty years, once you see a problem developing that you can’t work out, then it is time to think of getting help.

You might have to reassure your partner that counseling is not the end of the relationship. They might get the idea that if you are suggesting counseling then the relationship is basically over. Let them know that this is not the case, that you actually love the relationship and want to make it stronger. This will assure them that your relationship is worth working at, and that maybe a little help won’t hurt.

In the end, it is possible that you will not be able to get your partner to go to counseling with you. Here is where you can make a bold statement by going alone. Tell them you believe you need help to work on your own personal issues. Hopefully, when they see you doing this on your own, it will encourage them to join in.

I hope this advice on getting your partner to go with you to relationship counseling helps both you and your relationship. If you and your partner do attend counseling, then you can look forward to working together to strengthen your relationship for the long haul.